I met with my therapist last night. I really like her.
One of the things we talked about was my desire to come to a place of acceptance about my situation. I think that the more accepting I am of my reality, the more peace I can feel. In addition to--hey, peace is a good thing--I think that the more peace I feel, the more energy I can spend on healing and not on angst.
So I asked her (tongue in cheek) if there was a way to fast track acceptance. She said, "You're not going to like my answer."
She said, "In order to heal, you need to feel. And there's no timeline."
I said, "You're right, I don't like that answer."
She said that I need to be real on my blog. She gave me homework to watch Inside Out and Inside Out 2.
Honestly, I like her homework.
So here's me being real:
Sunday was kind of awful. I felt sick. I felt like I let people down, not just at school, but at church (primary chorister--it was the primary program and I didn't go to church) and also my family.
I feel like a shell of myself. I feel like I'm not me. I'm used to being capable and organized and on top of things.
I'm not used to floundering and feeling limited and getting help with everything. And I don't like it.
Also, I had a big heart to heart with Adam on Sunday night. I told him that I want to have more faith and I want to be more optimistic, but it is hard to maintain. He is going out of town this week for an extra long trip and that makes me feel extra anxious. And I'm also trying to come up with the worst case scenario that I'll find out on Thursday when I get (hopefully) my treatment plan.
Adam asked, "Why are you doing that?!?"
I said, "I don't know...It's what I do."
He said, "What is one time that has ever served you?"
I couldn't come up with one.
He talked to me about my feelings, my fears, my illness, they are all OK and they will come and go, but faith is a principle of action. I need to choose to have faith and then act on that faith.
It resonated with me.
Of course it is something that I've learned all my life, but sometimes things just stick when you need them to stick.
For not the first time, I felt the rallying of my pioneer ancestors. They had faith to put one foot in front of the other. They didn't know what awaited them (Sagebrush. Sagebrush awaited them.) but they went anyway. They kept going.
I went to school yesterday and I did my best and I felt frustrated by several things including but not limited to why can't those dang kids keep track of their computers? We had more missing and they were mostly unplugged. We got everything sorted and then at lunch I went on Etsy and ordered a sticker set where you put a color coded sticker on a Chromebook and one on the charging cord and one on the computer cart so maybe they will be able to get it straight. As a bonus, they're pretty colors.
Unlike my pioneer ancestors, I have a credit card.
(Related, my colored pencils arrived. I'm going to color when I watch Inside Out.)
Here's something else.
Yesterday I sent an email to the parents of my students and told them about my diagnosis. I got message after message telling me they would pray for me.
It is humbling to feel so much love from people. I don't deserve it, but I appreciate it all the same.