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Monday, January 12, 2015

Friday

I got Emma out of school (which is a lot easier since the school is an open campus and I don't have to anger the attendance woman at GPHS any longer) and we headed to Draper to the nicest DMV in America.  (Emma, of course, doesn't appreciate that because she's never been to another DMV.  Oh, sweet girl, you will learn...)

Emma was old enough for her learner's permit in August, but that's when we moved so we had bigger fish to fry.  Since then we've been in a standoff.

Emma and I are really good at standoffs.  It may be our mother/daughter love language.  She wanted to go take the test and I wanted her to study first.

On the way to the DMV, she told me that her "studying" had been reading the book once.

Naturally, (kind of infuriatingly) she passed on the first try.  Emma.  Not only does she usually win our standoffs, but she's usually pretty smart too.

So now she has her permit.

Here we go again.

That night, Braeden invited some friends over to play Diplomacy.  (Diplomacy is like a teenage version of Chutes and Ladders.  It's way more complicated but every bit as arduous and painful.) I had zero role in the entire affair.  Wait, I did buy several 2 liters of soda.  Adam picked up pizza on his way home from work and that was that.

It's weird.

Birthday parties used to be an undertaking.  There were invitations and decorations and food.  There was greeting parents when they dropped off guests and hoping your child was gracious about gifts.  There was keeping everyone happy and damage control.  There were games and singing Happy Birthday and cutting the cake.

Now I just buy several 2 liters.

The boys all drove themselves here.  I'd met nearly all of them before and I've seen them perform. (They're all either drama or choir friends.  Braeden isn't in choir but he's friends with lots of kids who are.)  Now that I think about it, I should have requested they sing for me.  They are in the chamber choir at PGHS, which is amazing. 

They were polite and friendly and appreciative.  They retreated to the basement.  Occasionally I would hear hoots of laughter.  Emma stood in for one of the players for awhile because he was late (there seemed to be a lot of speculation about some kind of entanglement with a girl) and Mark was even allowed to be involved for awhile.

Adam and I were empty nesters, upstairs.

I sent Adam down at one point to take a few pictures.  It seemed like the party for the 18th birthday should at least be somewhat documented.







True to their innate predilection to perform and be expressive, they were in no way phased by someone taking their picture. 

And I am thinking they were having fun.

Friday, January 9, 2015

Eighteen

This weekend Braeden will turn 18.

The last year has not been an easy one for Braeden.  It wasn't his idea to move.  He left behind friends he loved and teachers he loved and a school he loved.  He was plain sad.  And then, little by little, he was better.  In typical Braeden fashion, his native optimism carried the day.  I am proud of the way he's made the best of a hard situation and I know that it will make him a better person.  He is turning 18 a little less carefree, a little more empathetic, a little kinder, a little stronger.

Eighteen.  It feels like such a big deal.  It is a milestone, sort of a guidepost that says, "OK, you are an adult."

When I home schooled Braeden, I realized that his favorite way to learn was to just do it.  He barely listened if I explained how to do an assignment in too much detail.  It was better for him if I just turned him loose on it and he could come back to me with questions.

I know there are more lessons for him to learn and they're lessons I can't teach him.  I'm not exactly looking forward to him leaving home (at all) but when has motherhood been about me?  From the time I took Braeden to get his first vaccination, I had to come to terms with the fact that sometimes, being a mother was doing what was right for your child even if you didn't want to do it.

I can't help but feel excited for Braeden too though.  He is planning on serving a two year mission for our church after he graduates from high school.  He doesn't get to pick where he will go and the possibilities are exhilarating.  I have a lot of confidence in him and his abilities.  He will help people and make their lives better.  It will be hard for me to share my boy, but share him I will.

After his mission, there will be college.  We are still waiting to know exactly where that will be but I'm happy with the options.  From where I sit, his future looks bright, bright, bright.

Here he is world.  My imperfect, maddening, marvelous boy.  I can't express the depth of my affection for him.  If giving him to the world was all I ever did, it would (in my, you know...completely unbiased opinion) be enough.






 

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Around here lately


the view in the morning
1- Adam has a herd of deer he watches over every night in our yard.

2- Emma has a lot of homework, always.

3- Braeden never has any, ever.

4- Mark is feeling better, which is unfortunate for him when it is school time.

5-Adam had a work thing last night and Mark left him this:

there are so many church buildings around they just number them--the numbers aren't actually on the buildings though so it doesn't really help me
 6-Adam's work thing was dinner at a fancy restaurant.  I told him he should have sent Mark a sorry you had to have dinner at home note.

7- I have three overdue library books and, unlike in the Sno-Isle library system (which I miss a lot), they actually charge you for overdue books here.

8- I also have a cold sore.  I never used to get cold sores.

9- I don't like them.

10- At least the sky is pretty.  I take a ridiculous amount of pictures of the sky.

winter sunsets are my favorite



Wednesday, January 7, 2015

A day of unexpectedness

Sunday Mark was sick, or was he?  We never know with him.  He was fine at church and then walked around the neighborhood gathering offerings with another deacon and got cold.

It was like Victorian days when getting "a chill" would make you sick.  We went to see my grandma and help her box up her Christmas decorations and we left him home.

When we got home he had a fever and hadn't eaten anything all day.  OK, so he was sick.  The next morning, his fever was gone but he didn't feel up to school.  And he still wouldn't eat.  I decided to take the opportunity to run some of my errands.  First I went to Target.  The store employee at the register was probably in her twenties.  She was scanning my purchases and said, "Last week I had the most random thought.  It was so random I didn't tell anyone.  I thought what if I were pregnant and working and my water broke?  I mean, what would I do?  Tell my manager?"

I wondered silently why last week it was too random to tell anyone and suddenly, it was just perfect to tell me.

She seemed to want a response though, so I said, "It's good to be prepared for eventualities."

"Yeah," she said appreciatively.

My next stop was Costco.  I'm very grateful there is Costco in the world and I'm grateful there is one close to me, but I don't like going to Costco.  I had avoided it since the week before Christmas.  I had cobbled together a milk supply from the grocery store, but otherwise we were in dire need of a Costco run.  I'm pretty sure I bought the entire store so I'm sorry if you went to Costco in Lehi Monday afternoon and the shelves were all bare.

I took my purchases home and checked on Mark.  His fever was back and he was sick.  Still hadn't eaten and wouldn't drink much.  I decided I needed to take him to the doctor.

I quickly stuffed all the perishables in the refrigerator and freezer and left everything else on the kitchen table.  Then I set about finding a doctor that would take both our insurance and new patients.  The recommendation I got from Melanee would not take our insurance so I hunted on.  The insurance website was extremely frustrating and slow and causing me anger management problems.  (This is a problem of living in the digital age.  Occasionally when information isn't instantaneous, it feels like a crime has been committed.)

I finally gave up on the website altogether and called them.  A very verbose man, reading from a rambling script was able to eventually find me a doctor.  Then he kept asking, "Are you satisfied with the level of service this phone call provided?"

Yes.  It was peachy.

About then Braeden and his friend Brian came home.  They burst into the kitchen and saw the contents of Costco on the table and both stopped in their tracks.

"Whoa," Braeden said, "Do you need some help?"

"Yes!" I said, "Will you get Emma after her tech crew meeting so I can take Mark to the walk in clinic?"

"Sorry," Braeden said, "Her meeting ends when play practice starts."

So instead of helping me, the boys helped themselves to a snack.

After I had retrieved Emma and packed my shivering feverish boy in the van, we headed to the walk in clinic.

What wonders awaited us there in the waiting room!  Three adults were there--one appeared to be the daughter of the other two--with a little boy about 4 or 5 years old who had the most elaborate bedhead I'd ever seen.  It was a work of art.  The adults completely ignored the boy and then eventually (like the time he'd pulled the string repeatedly on one of those toys that says, "the cow says moooooo" for about five minutes straight) they'd yell at him to be quiet.  Two women were talking loudly to each other and then on their cell phones and one of them was clearly annoyed with the other one and kept sighing deeply and rolling her eyes.  Two other women were there with masks over their faces.  One of them started doing stretches and deep knee bends.  There was one other guy--a little older than Braeden--and he was talking into his cell phone, outlining all the dreaded symptoms he had.  Mark had his hood pulled up on his sweatshirt and kept muttering under his breath that he should have just stayed home.

He was cranky.

We finally got called into the back. The doctor asked Mark if he'd missed school and Mark said he was homeschooled.  The doctor got excited and said his wife homeschooled their children.  He asked me if I was a part of the local home school group.  I said no, we'd recently moved from the Seattle area.

His jaw dropped.

"People home school in Seattle?"

"Not anymore," I said, "Not since we moved."

(I didn't really say that.  I only say a small portion of what pops into my head in an effort to be more socially acceptable.)

I very much liked the doctor though and I think we should make him our new doctor.  I liked the way he listened.

We went away with a strep throat diagnosis and a prescription to fill which allowed us the opportunity to find a pharmacy.

I guess it all goes to show, you never know how your day will unfold.

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Eleven of each

What are little boys made of?
What are little boys made of? 
I felt pretty safe at the New Year's Eve party since these guys were handling security
Snips and snails
And puppy-dogs' tails,
That's what little boys are made of.
the eleven boy cousins
What are little girls made of?
What are little girls made of? 

Sugar and spice
And everything nice,
That's what little girls are made of.

the eleven girl cousins

Monday, January 5, 2015

Celebrating a new year

We had a big party at Marianne and Robert's house on New Year's Eve.  When we were growing up, my mom called Marianne the party girl because she was always either planning or having a party.  (My mom should have called me the leave me alone girl, because that was more my scene, but she didn't.  She's nice like that.)  So it was fitting that the big party was at Marianne's.

I snapped this photo of Enoch before we went to Marianne's.  He had come straight from basketball practice and was accidentally still wearing his whistle.


It was a very fitting shirt for him to be wearing.  If my kids played basketball, I'd want him to be their coach. He is a good and kind coach and his team wins a lot and he's (mostly) unflappable when some of the girls on his team cry.

New Year's Eve is also Morgan's birthday so we celebrated that a little before things got underway.


See the chaos in the background?  That was pretty much the situation.  Look at that dear boy's smile though.  How we love Morgan and are grateful he's part of us now.

Braeden wore his horse head.  Because what's a party without a horse head?



We snacked on a kitchen full of any and every kind of food you associate with parties.  It was quite a spread.  After awhile, things got glamorous.

Enoch and Jennifer

I think my dad was determining which props to use.

Here's what he came up with.

Ammon was feeling sort of lonely without Melanee--who was at my parents', putting their little ones to bed.

Emma and Braeden

So glam they sweat glitter:  Clarissa, Liberty, Emma and Desi

Up until the last second, Edgar had a prop too.  I love that Olivia married someone with an even stronger will than her own.  He won't be pushed around.  And they make a cute couple.


double 'stache

I'm not sure what kind of caption to put here.  I should point out that we're Mormons and there was no alcohol at this shin dig. 

Another cute couple

Don't you hate it when you think the lips are covering yours and then they aren't?  Also, did I marry the Monopoly man?  If so, I want $200 for passing GO and my Get Out of Jail Free card.

We had had a great time laughing and playing games, but there is always someone that wimps out on the party early.  And by someone, I mean me.  At 11:00, my parents took me home.  They were fine to leave too.  I would say that it's because I'm old but I didn't like staying up all that late when I was a teenager either.  I figured it was midnight in Utah, where I now reside, so Happy New Year, I'm going to bed.

On New Year's Day we had a big dinner at my parents' house.  Here's the table in the sunroom--and there was another table set inside for some of the kids (the tweens--they are OK on their own, unlike the littles, and OK not being with the adults, unlike the teenagers).


My mom is amazing.

Here's a parting shot, a random picture of two happy boys, squinting in the cold bright sunshine.


Where are the redhead's shoes?


Friday, January 2, 2015

Ladies' brunch

Every year Olivia hosts a ladies' brunch for all the ladies in the family over the age of eight. 

Every year I wish I could be there and this year I was!

Before he made a break for it with all his cute little sons, Edgar took a picture of us:


This picture makes me happy.

It's more than just happy though.  It's approaching pure joy.

I love these women and girls.  When I think of sisterhood, this is the definition.  These women are an interwoven group who are fiercely loyal to each other.  Over the years we've cheered each other on in a myriad of ways.  The mothers are a support to each other, the aunts are kind cheerleaders of the girls, the daughters are true friends, helpful assets when it comes to their younger cousins and a lot of fun to be around.  My mom is the rock solid matriarch that makes everything wonderful.  I love that Emma, who is a lone girl between two brothers, has the opportunity to be a part of it. 

When I say we laughed and cried, I mean we laughed until my cheeks hurt and we cried our makeup off.

The food was amazing and decadent.  We played After the Manner of the Adverb which cracked. Me. Up.  We wrote down some goals and aspirations to be sealed in an envelope for next year and then we made predictions about where Clarissa and Braeden will go on their missions.

I don't know what all will happen in 2015.  I do know that these women will help me celebrate and/or survive whatever it is.