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Friday, February 9, 2024

Grateful Friday

Grateful to have made it!

Another Parent Teacher Conference week in the books.  I love and adore that the district has the Friday after conferences a teacher work day!  I have high hopes today of all that I will get done.  (Largely unrealistic hopes...)

I had so many parents show up for conferences that I didn't accomplish as many things during conferences that I was hoping for.

It was amazing to see some of them though.  I was not expecting such a great turnout.  I'm grateful for the parents who earnestly ask what they can be doing at home to help.

I'm grateful they share their children with me.

(If you ever want to have a really heartwarming experience, have a group of third graders write a paragraph about their favorite holiday.  Most of them chose Christmas and presents were mentioned, but they talked mostly about loving time with their families and celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ because they love Him.)

It kind of makes me laugh at conferences to look across the table at my students, looking so small and timid.  When parents aren't around there is very little timidity going on.  

I'm grateful for a really fun time I had yesterday.  My WIN (What I Need) group is the second highest group of readers.  We are working on fluency.  I had them learn to read "Whirligig Beetles" by Paul Fleishman.  It's a poem for two voices from the Newbery winner, Joyful Noise.

They worked on it all week.  It was hard.  It had words like gyrating and tortuous.  They had to read together and in rhythm.  We performed for the other two WIN classes.  I wanted to perform for Jamie, but she was gone.  We went down the hall and found Matt.  He was appropriately appreciative and told them they did a great job.

I loved how happy they were and proud of their hard work.  I love that we have a principal now who they were excited to share with.  We were so heady with success we stopped at the office and shared it with the secretaries.  They clapped and oohed and ahhed.

I'll never not be grateful to work at that good school.

Thursday, February 8, 2024

Bye-bye now. Bye. Bye-bye

Yesterday I was making copies and a 5th grade teacher came into the work room.  She stood there, trying to remember what she was doing, and said, "I am SO tired."

Parent teacher conference week is quite a week.  It is exhausting on many, many levels.

On Tuesday I only had two parents not show up, which is kind of amazing.  We'll see about tonight.  It is great to talk to parents and give them both compliments and...suggestions.  Inevitably someone cries.  A mother of one of the criers told me she was grateful that I was "so frank."

I don't sugar coat it.

I also try to pile on the good things too.

One of my little ones comes to school hungry and pretty much catatonic from staying up too late playing video games.

I told his mom (through his 6th grade brother who was translating into Spanish) that he was struggling in math because of how he comes to school.

She started rapid fire Spanish aimed at my student.  I asked the older brother, "What did she say?"

He said, "No more video games."

My student came yesterday morning a different kid.  After math, I said, "You were great today!  Did you go to bed earlier?"

He said, "Yes.  And my mom made me quesadillas for breakfast."

I hope it lasts!

Also, he can get breakfast at school, if he comes early enough.  Getting the parents on board is half the battle.

By the time we had our dinner break, I felt the Barbie in Toy Story.  


So much smiling.

I went home completely spent from how people-y it all was.  One really bright spot was that during one of my lulls, a student I had years ago stopped by because she was there with her kindergarten brother.  As a third grader she struggled a lot with reading and math, going to special ed for a good portion of the day.  She has a sparkling personality and she happily told me about how seventh grade is going.  She told me math is really hard.  "How do you feel about pi?" she asked.

I said, "I love apple pie."

She said, "Well, yeah, but I'm talking about 2 pi r."  She shivered with the horror of it all.

She seems to be thriving and I felt so proud of her.  She told me she is getting an A in Spanish (which is easy to believe since it was her first language).  I loved seeing her poise and confidence.

Every day I'm grateful for the interactions I get with so many wonderful people.  These children make my heart sing.


Wednesday, February 7, 2024

Peace as a river

 



Oh, that thou had hearkened unto my commandments--then had thy peace been as a river, and they righteousness as the waves of the sea.
1 Nephi 20:18

I talked about that scripture in my Sunday School lesson on Sunday and when I was preparing (and I was home sick), I went on a whole journey thinking about rivers.  I guess I had a lot of time on my hands.  It turned into a sentimental journey so I decided I wanted to record it on my blog.

The above picture is of 11 year old Braeden overlooking the Stillaguamish River, which is probably one of our family's favorite places in the world.

Rivers are peaceful.  Here's the Columbia, Mississippi and Snohomish:




They are mesmerizing to watch, kind of the same way a campfire is mesmerizing.  Rivers bring me peace and to think that if you keep the commandments your peace will be as a river is a comforting thought.

Except there are more than one kind of river.

Here is the Yellowstone River.


I still remember standing here with Megan and our kids.  There was no guardrail and it was kind of terrifying.  Megan and I realized that if we or our children fell in, there would be no rescue.  It roared terrifically and didn't feel peaceful.

That picture still makes me anxious because I remember standing there.

Here's another picture of what a river can do.  I don't think the rocks that have been worn away and transformed would call it a peaceful situation.  (You know, if rocks could talk.)



The transforming power of the Colorado River making something beautiful could be a whole other lesson, but the point is, rivers aren't always peaceful and idyllic.

On that same trip to Yellowstone, we went white water rafting.


The not great swimmer that I am, I felt nervous about it.  When we were on our way to the river, I said to Adam, "You would jump in and save me if I fell in, right?"

He said, "No.  That's now how it works."

You'd better believe I listened to every safety instruction given.  I made sure my life jacket was properly buckled.  I dug my foot deep into the space where the bottom of the boat meets the side of the boat.  At one point Talia, our niece, was "riding the bull" (sitting on the front of the raft) and fell in.  Adam quickly reached in and pulled her right back up.

Sputtering water, she said, "Thank you Uncle Adam!  Thank you!"

Because of our guide and heeding all the instructions (and the quick reaction of a strong uncle) we all had a great time.

I would go again.

The main river I thought about though, was the Stillaguamish.  If we talk about The River in our family, that's the one we mean.

While we lived in Washington, we went to the river many times every summer.  A handful of times it was hot enough that I actually swam, but usually I sat happily in the shade with a book and everyone else swam.

And Adam taught them how to swim in the river.  There are places where it is shallow, rocky, sandy, smooth and very swift and deep.  You can't just tell from the shore what it is like underwater.

For example, here is Adam standing on a smooth ledge while Mark is in the deep swift current.


Growing up swimming in that river, Adam knew it.  He knew the pitfalls and taught our kids early and often about it.  He also rescued more than a few kids from drowning while we were there.  If you don't understand the river and its currents, you can needlessly tire yourself out trying to navigate.

Beloved in the river is Hippo Rock (named by our kids).  Sometimes it was completely underwater and sometimes it stood out about 3 feet above the surface.  It just depended on how high the river was.  Even when the river was fairly low, it was deep enough near the rock that you could do a shallow dive off the rock.  It was their favorite place to hang out.


Adam taught our kids the way the river responded to the rock.  Water speeds up as it goes around the rock but then curls back around.  You could get very exhausted in the swift fast water trying to get to the rock, or you could let yourself go and then give a few strong strokes and get pulled in behind the rock.  

From my comfortable vantage point on the shore, I was always very grateful to have Adam teach our kids to be safe in the river.

That made it an even more peaceful place.


All this reminded me of another time we were hiking to the ice caves in the North Cascades.  It had been a particularly stormy winter and a bridge that we needed to cross in order to make the journey had washed out.

Someone had put a big log across the swiftly moving river.  I thought it was our cue to give up and try another day and Adam thought we could cross the log.

If that isn't a microcosm of our marriage, I don't know what is.

I was a little nervous traversing the river and looking down at all that water from the precarious log, but in that moment it occurred to me that I was the weakest swimmer of the family.  I figured if I fell in, I would probably be OK so our kids would for sure be OK.  Especially since they all knew how to swim in rivers.

So back to the scripture:

Oh, that thou had hearkened unto my commandments--then had thy peace been as a river, and they righteousness as the waves of the sea.
1 Nephi 20:18

All rivers aren't exactly peaceful.  Life isn't exactly peaceful.  There are guides and rules and strategies and strong uncles and people who know the way.

If we heed them, we can have peace.

Even more than that, we have the Prince of Peace.  Even in the swiftest, scariest river we may find ourselves in.  We can find peace.  Because of Him.

Tuesday, February 6, 2024

It is that good

I had a new BYU practicum teacher start yesterday and I like her.  She has the basic instinct of a teacher.

She got up at one point and let a student, who had just returned from ESL, know what was happening and got him set up and I heard choirs of angels singing because not everyone would know to do that.

She is from Portland, Maine and her husband is from Guilford, Connecticut.  I told her we'd lived in New Haven, which is near Guilford.  She said her in-laws love New Haven pizza.  She said, "Do you know Pepe's?"

Yes.  Yes, I do.

She said her in-laws practically have a shrine to it.

And it is that good.

Braeden, 2015, having some Pepe's clam pie.  Yes, he was a drama kid.

I told her that New Haven bumped us up a pizza bracket we've never recovered from.  She said her husband is going to do an internship in Connecticut this summer.  I said, "Go to Pepe's."

I am jealous.  I want to spend the summer in New Haven.  Pizza every day.

Then I remembered the humidity.


Monday, February 5, 2024

Weekend

Friday evening, Adam and I went to Boys in the Boat.  We had both read, and loved, the book and it was good to go to our beloved little Water Gardens theater to watch it.  We met there so I bought the tickets and waited for Adam in the lobby even though there was no one to actually show the tickets to.  They very much work on the honor system at Water Gardens and I love them for it.

We went to Kneaders for French dip sandwiches afterward and yes, we are loving the empty nest life.

Saturday we did all the Saturday things and as a bonus, got to have lunch with Marianne and 3/4 of her girls: Clarissa, Liberty and Carolina.

Marianne insisted on buying our lunch and I said that I would have to stop inviting myself to crash her party unless she stopped buying me food. 

She promised she would.

It was wonderful to spend a little time with them.  

I forgot that I wanted to go to JoAnn Fabrics for more embroidery floss.  We also forgot a cucumber when we went to Winco earlier, so we were going to get some.

We were talking to Braeden in the car while we drove and I said, "I'm going to leave you talking to your dad while I go into JoAnn's."

Braeden said, "I feel bored now just knowing you are going there."

You never met anyone who hated a craft store more, except maybe Mark.  

We stopped by Walmart for the cucumber and bought several other things and forgot the cucumber.

These are the times we are living in.

I taught Sunday School on Sunday and was nervous, but it went OK.  The Book of Mormon is way more of a comfort zone than the Old Testament.  

I'll tell you that for free.

We had our kids and Clarissa and Lili over for dinner.  It was a good time as always.  I shared some of my lesson with them and Mark gave us an involved presentation about pizza he had given for a work function.

Basically coming to our house is like coming for a TED talk.


Friday, February 2, 2024

Grateful Friday

I have mean girls being mean again.

I think because I dealt with mean girls (one in particular) as a kid, I don't like mean girls.  Also it is super disruptive.

My student who is mostly non-verbal told me yesterday he hated me.  I was going over a behavior chart with him.  If he stopped making shooting noises (because they are making us all crazy) and is respectful (such a low bar), he can earn a break to play with Legos at the end of the day.

So he said he hated me.

I said, "That's OK.  You can hate me.  But if you want to earn a break, you need to stop making shooting noises and be respectful."

So I presented him with a grammar page we would do together.  He said he hated grammar.

I said, "That's also OK.  You don't have to like grammar, you just have to do it."

He looked at me like that was kind of a new concept and then he went ahead and did his work and earned his break.  I already have lots of good friends.  You don't have to like me or school, little darlings.  You just have to do your work.

Despite the mean girls and the unhappy student, I am grateful to be a teacher.

There are many bright spots that illuminate the rest.

I have one student who I just love so much.  I had his brother too.  I know I break into a grin every time I see him first thing in the morning.

I also love my fashionista.  Over the course of several days, she has been asking me my hierarchy of favorite colors.

Yesterday she said, "OK, so I know you like red best.  Then blue, then green, but then what?

"Pink."

"OK," she said, like that was important information to file away.  "What next?"

I was kind of running out of favorites.  I said black.  I said, "I don't really love purple and orange and yellow."

Another girl was lingering nearby (and I just wanted them to go to recess) and she walked away.  She said, "I can't talk to you.  I love purple!"

The fashionista said, "Orange is the worst!"

"OK," I said, "Now go to recess."  She smiled appreciatively because we had just divulged our secrets about colors and left.

Yesterday after school we had a viewing of the movie, Right to Read.  It was pretty incredible and pointed out the truth that learning to read in the Information Age is the most important thing we can teach our students.  It also made me cry.  There is a huge divide racially and socioeconomically.  There is a steep hill to climb because there are many curriculums and colleges that don't teach the science of reading.  

I read a story in the NYTimes yesterday about how students were recovering from Covid.  There was a way to plug in school districts.  I was interested in it and sent it to my kids.  Braeden plugged in Davis and Newport News (where he served part of his mission.)

It haunts me:


My heart breaks for the disparity of it all.  I want all children to learn and thrive.  I remembered last night Mother Teresa saying if you can't feed a hundred people, then feed just one.

I'll keep toiling away in my little spot.

I'm grateful that I have been able to learn more about teaching reading.  I have so much to learn!  But I am here for it!  I will go back every day and try again.  

(Even if they hate me.)

Thursday, February 1, 2024

So good

 I was very happy to be back at school yesterday.  You could have convinced me that it was any day of the week.  I had no idea.  During math I thought it was Tuesday.  We went to library after recess like we do every Wednesday and then came back and I did what we do every Thursday for reading.

I kept saying, "Wait.  It's Wednesday isn't it?"

My students were mostly very well behaved while I was gone.  They did their work and the classroom was pretty tidy.

They're such a dreamy class.  

They wanted to hear all about why I was gone and how I was feeling.

My voice is 100% back.  It was pretty amazing to be back at school and 1) not feel awful and 2) have a voice.

A random 2nd grader threw her arms around me in the hall.

A random 1st grader excitedly said, "Mrs. Davis!" 

One of my former students was nearby and he said, "Yeah, I was in her class a few years ago."  He is way too cool now, as a fifth grader, to show me too much enthusiasm, but he gave me a nod.

I texted a parent to ask about a student and she texted back!

It doesn't take much to make me really happy.