Monday, October 8, 2012
Know yourself: part three
Since my work revolves around caring for my home and family and being chauffeur-in-chief, my time is mostly my own. The appointments and grocery shopping and errands and laundry and home school and dishes and dusting and Everything Else, happen when I want them to. (Or they don't happen even when I want them to because I choose to do something else instead.)
Since I am in charge of myself, I like nothing more than a (long) to do list.
My parents are doers. They are task oriented and I am their daughter. Once Adam and I had a conversation that I think was enlightening to how we plan our discretionary time. We talked about what the measure of a good day was, a day we felt good about. His was a day spent in some sort of recreation with our family. Mine was a day in which I accomplished a lot. (You can tell which of us is more fun to be around.)
This doesn't, of course, mean that Adam never accomplishes things or that I don't have fun (although I'm not that good at it, really). It does mean that since I know I need to be a little enterprising to be happy, I can plan for meaning, even in our recreation.
Recently we were planning a weekend getaway. We batted several ideas back and forth. Finally I remembered this key element of my personality. I explained it to Adam. I wanted to do something with meaning. I wanted to see something new or interesting. I wanted to learn something. I wanted to look at beauty. He wanted to do something fun. We found the perfect compromise. We went to the Oregon Coast. It felt like the perfect itinerary. I saw interesting and new things. I drank in beauty. Adam and the kids splashed their crazy selves in frigid water.
We were all happy. Our needs were met, authentically.